When you work with someone so closely through their pregnancy, you are present to bear witness at one of the most beautiful, trans-formative life events a person will have; it changes your perspective on what being human is. Holding Space for someone in that moment is humbling. Women and birthing people don't need to be empowered. They are inherently powerful. We are just there to hold space for that awesomeness.
Here is what a few of the powerful parents have said about our work together.
Kennedy- Labour Support
Kennedy, born to the Griffins on
November 7, 2015
We absolutely loved having Jackie as our doula!! The best thing for me while being pregnant was having Jackie to talk to. Every woman has different fears and worries during their pregnancy and there is always the 'should I page my midwife or OB' moment. For us there were many. I found it so helpful to have a knowledgeable professional that I could talk to. Not just monthly or weekly but any time I was scared or nervous, or excited. There she was on the other end of the phone with excellent advice and a listening ear.
It got to the point where every time I mentioned a worry my husband would look at me and say 'what did Jackie say?'. Once I told him what her advice was, that was it - we we're doing what she recommended, because she was always right.
In labour she was there literally holding my leg while my husband stayed with me and held my hand. When she wasn't holding my leg she was bringing me drinks or food or helping my husband. She brought all the things we forgot, or never even thought of, and walked the halls with us coaching me through each contraction.
Having Jackie with me through the pregnancy made a rough pregnancy bearable, and made it feel like I really wasn't alone. I had the love and care of my husband, but you really can't underestimate the difference the care and support of a professional woman - who has been pregnant, pushed out a baby and is educated - can make. It's like being pregnant with your best friend - except she is trained in pregnancy and birth!! On top of it all Jackie has the most beautiful heart of any woman I have ever met. You really won't ever find anyone as invested in you and your babies well-being. Quite a relief in this world where our health care professionals only have two minutes for us. Jackie always makes time.
Our little girl calls her 'Auntie Jax' because she is family to us (I mean, c'mon - she held a leg).
No words could ever express my gratitude for having her share our journey.
From A Dad:
As a first time dad to be, I didn't think about hiring a doula very much. My wife seemed confident and was healthy, her Mom is a nurse and would be there during the labour, we did pre-natal classes with the health unit, and I had read a few books... I was just going to continue my role of spousal support through what I thought was the perfect pregnancy, and we'd have a beautiful baby soon enough, right? Wrong.
I soon realized that mom instincts trump nursing ones in a very bad way sometimes, and that those prenatal classes were inadequate. I felt I was in way over my head, ridden with anxiety when a very, very abnormal, tough, and extremely long labour started. My wife was not getting the support she needed, and quite frankly (as much as I hated to make ANYTHING about me during this process), neither was I. That's when I turned to Jackie, and I am SO grateful I did. She immediately took the bull by the horns, and the impact on my wife's (and my own) confidence was incredible. My wife went from being terrified, to feeling in control within less than an hour of our first hands on session. That's when I realized doulas are for dads too, and that the right one can be more effective than you'd ever imagine.
But, it didn't end there. The labour lasted over 5 days off and on (but mostly on) before my warrior of a wife was induced to get her cervix dilating properly. Complication after complication, my wife was exhausted, and so was I. But every single time an anxiety filled situation arose, Jackie helped turn it into a calm, logical one that she guided us through. After the 25 hour induced labour to get fully dilated, our little/big guy was not going to fit, no matter what they tried. So, why not continue the crazy train and toss a C section into the mix? That's exactly what happened, and it was not a good experience for my wife. Again, I did my best to support her, but I didn't fully understand what she was going through.
The final curveball was all of this leading to a "sugar baby" who didn't want to eat, and was hypoglycemic. There was talk of moving him to the NICU, and that had my wife in tears (which hurt, since crying post C section is not fun). Guess who walked me through what to try to avoid the NICU and calm down my wife? And guess who didn't wind up in the NICU?
Jackie was there for us through the whole ordeal, and post partum in a way I didn't even realize I needed to be at first, helping me help my wife emotionally, and physically.
I seriously can't thank her enough, and highly, HIGHLY recommend her to anyone considering hiring a doula. Stop considering, and just give her a call... You will not regret it!
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Hayden -Labour Support
Hayden Rowley entered the world on
December 27th, 2015 to Melanie and Steve.
Jackie supported my family and I throughout the pregnancy and birth of our son in December of 2015. As my due date approached Jackie met with my partner and I to discuss our birth plan and the expectations we had of each other, our families, and her as a doula. This process was cathartic and allowed my partner and I to prepare for our new little human and express our fears and concerns. Jackie made us both (and our 3 year old who was also present) feel comfortable and she was sure to include my partner in all areas of the process, which he really appreciated.
I experienced 3 days of intense pre-labour and Jackie not only attended my house twice to spend time with me and ensure that I was ok, but she walked theneighbourhood/hospital/stairs with me and was always my cheerleader. During my labour Jackie thought of everything (and I mean EVERYTHING!). She had essential oils that I enjoy, she had low lighting, music, food, and when I got sick she immediately offered me a mint. Jackie was able to use a variety techniques to keep me as comfortable as possible throughout my labour. She used counter pressure on my back (which was incredible!), encouraged me to change positions and used a birthing ball and birthing stool to keep my labour moving.
Throughout labour Jackie did an amazing job of matching my tone, anticipating my needs, giving me clear direction, making my family and I feel safe and supported, and holding space for our beautiful son when he entered the world!
My birth experience was everything I hoped for and
Jackie was a large part of that.
If you are looking for a personal experience with someone who is caring, open, knowledgeable and will make you feel like a birth warrior then Jackie is the doula you are looking for!
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